The role of ego in communication | S5 E10

First published: 23 April, 2024

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The role of ego in communication | S5 E10

The role of ego in communication | S5 E10

This episode features a conversation with Christie Garcia, the founder of Mindful Choice Leadership Academy, who is an expert in leadership development and ego management.

The Ego’s Impact on Leadership Potential

During our discussion, Christie expressed her concern about how talented individuals often struggle to fulfil their leadership potential after being promoted into management positions. This observation led her to identify a gap in traditional leadership development approaches, which inspired her to create programmes that focus on leadership effectiveness by reintroducing the human element into the equation.

Christie’s mission is to make a positive impact on individuals’ overall potential by addressing the core of their leadership challenges. She believes that to become effective leaders, individuals must first understand and manage their egos.

Self-Awareness and Ownership: The Journey to Effective Leadership

A significant part of our conversation revolved around the importance of self-awareness and ownership in leadership development. Christie emphasised that individuals need to recognise their unconscious habits, mindsets, and beliefs, which collectively form their ego. She pointed out that self-awareness is crucial for identifying one’s current impact, and taking ownership is essential to initiate meaningful change.

Christie stressed that self-awareness and ownership are not one-time achievements but ongoing journeys that require intentional effort to evolve and improve continuously.

The Three Dominant Egos: Compliance, Protector, and Controller

Christie introduced the concept of three dominant egos: compliance, protector, and controller. She explained how recognising and balancing these egos is vital for leaders to lead with integrity, care for people, and achieve success without over-relying on any one ego type.

Scaling Ego Understanding for Organisational Communication

When I asked about applying the understanding of ego to mass communication within organisations, Christie explained that managing egos, especially at the top, can lead to clearer communication, reduced drama, and a thriving organisational culture. By addressing ego issues among leaders, the positive effects can cascade throughout the entire workforce.

The Power of Ego Management in Humanising Relationships

Christie shared a powerful insight from her clients: once people understand their ego, they no longer want to speak solely from their perspective. This understanding humanises relationships, allowing individuals to own their flaws and weaknesses, which in turn permits others to do the same. The result is more effective, productive conversations where collaboration and alignment thrive.

Embracing Neurodiversity and Collective Strength

We also touched on the importance of recognising neurodiversity as a part of diversity. Understanding that we all have different ways of thinking and doing things can strengthen a team. By appreciating each other’s strengths and weaknesses, we can become more curious and supportive, leading to better outcomes for the team, clients, and the broader community.

Final Tips for Harnessing Ego Management

Christie’s final advice was clear: ego management is not just for those who need improvement; it’s also for successful individuals and organisations aiming to reach even greater heights. She encouraged everyone to learn more about ego management to understand their current impact, identify areas for growth, and experience the freedom it brings to life and leadership.

Connect with Christie Garcia and Mindful Choice Leadership Academy

For those interested in diving deeper into ego management and leadership development, Christie invited listeners to visit her website (see below) and consider enrolling in her leadership academies. These programmes are designed to help individuals and organisations maximize their success and impact.


I hope you’ve found this exploration of ego in communication and leadership as enlightening as I did. Understanding and managing our egos can unlock a level of freedom and effectiveness in our professional and personal lives that many of us strive for. If you’re interested in learning more about Christie Garcia’s work or the Mindful Choice Leadership Academy, be sure to check out the links provided in the show notes below.

Guest profile

Christie Garcia was frustrated watching talented individuals be promoted to management and fail to reach their leadership potential. These individuals had been praised for years based upon their own individual success (the “I” mentality). However once promoted, they struggled to turn the corner and adopt a big picture perspective and the “We” mindset. Christie realised that it was time to ditch the “old training model” and create programmes focused on developing leadership effectiveness. Christie now seeks to reintroduce the human element into leadership development and immediately make a positive impact on a person’s overall potential.

LinkedIn profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiegarcia/

Other useful links:

Christie’s Academy: https://www.mindfulchoiceacademy.com/

Episode links

Link to a relevant episode of the podcast: https://thebigpicturepeople.co.uk/blog/podcast/aligning-leadership-and-action-s3-e17/

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